I haven't been thinking about it at all, because I do like men *beams* The odd girlcrush, I put it down to the fact I do like personality - because, boobs? Not really a turn on *g*
Also, for me, it was Faith, not Buffy. And then Zoe in Firefly/Serenity. Men - totally Spike, not Angel! :)
But the one that turned me to the reality of real, honest, hey-I'm-really-truly-bi - today, was (don't laugh!) - Hillary Clinton!
I watched the first part of her interview with O'Reilly, and she was impressive, intellectually, sparring with a guy known for being a tough talker and Republican, and all with good humour and definite steel in her backbone.
So, that took care of me being seduced by her personality. Then, in the second section of the interview, she laughs - and god, it went straight to my turn-on button! Gorgeous, lilting laugh! And I always thought she was a beautiful woman, and the fact she's 60 doesn't change that at all, but that laugh - I just went PING!
Still, I didn't give it much thought - another anomalous girlcrush - and then hours later, I was just thinking about how Bill cheated on her, and I just wondered how he could. If I had a relationship with a woman like that - brains, beauty, bravery, and the all-important sense of humour - I couldn't imagine wanting anyone else. And that's what hit me, how that differed from the other crushes - I was thinking relationship!
No, I don't think she'll leave Bill for me!*g* - It's the word 'relationship' that hit me, and I took a hard long look at her again, thought about it, and realised yeah, I can really, realistically, see myself in a serious relationship with a woman.
Considering I'm not a 'relationship' person, this was all a huge change in mindset. And I realised I'm not het anymore, I'm bisexual!
It'll take some time to sink in, adjust to it becoming, like you say, a big part of my identity, something I tick in those ticky boxes when they ask for sexuality, but it will be fine. And I'm totally looking forward to experiencing this new thing!*g*
I'm impressed you didn't have a 'crisis' over it, and may your wishes come true re your hot friend *g*
Do your friends and family know? Right now, I think I'll be fine letting some friends know, but definitely not family. It's not a 'crisis' either for me, but it probably will be for them and I'm a firm believer in keeping stumm unless I get married!
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I haven't been thinking about it at all, because I do like men *beams* The odd girlcrush, I put it down to the fact I do like personality - because, boobs? Not really a turn on *g*
Also, for me, it was Faith, not Buffy. And then Zoe in Firefly/Serenity. Men - totally Spike, not Angel! :)
But the one that turned me to the reality of real, honest, hey-I'm-really-truly-bi - today, was (don't laugh!) - Hillary Clinton!
I watched the first part of her interview with O'Reilly, and she was impressive, intellectually, sparring with a guy known for being a tough talker and Republican, and all with good humour and definite steel in her backbone.
So, that took care of me being seduced by her personality. Then, in the second section of the interview, she laughs - and god, it went straight to my turn-on button! Gorgeous, lilting laugh! And I always thought she was a beautiful woman, and the fact she's 60 doesn't change that at all, but that laugh - I just went PING!
Still, I didn't give it much thought - another anomalous girlcrush - and then hours later, I was just thinking about how Bill cheated on her, and I just wondered how he could. If I had a relationship with a woman like that - brains, beauty, bravery, and the all-important sense of humour - I couldn't imagine wanting anyone else. And that's what hit me, how that differed from the other crushes - I was thinking relationship!
No, I don't think she'll leave Bill for me!*g* - It's the word 'relationship' that hit me, and I took a hard long look at her again, thought about it, and realised yeah, I can really, realistically, see myself in a serious relationship with a woman.
Considering I'm not a 'relationship' person, this was all a huge change in mindset. And I realised I'm not het anymore, I'm bisexual!
It'll take some time to sink in, adjust to it becoming, like you say, a big part of my identity, something I tick in those ticky boxes when they ask for sexuality, but it will be fine. And I'm totally looking forward to experiencing this new thing!*g*
I'm impressed you didn't have a 'crisis' over it, and may your wishes come true re your hot friend *g*
Do your friends and family know? Right now, I think I'll be fine letting some friends know, but definitely not family. It's not a 'crisis' either for me, but it probably will be for them and I'm a firm believer in keeping stumm unless I get married!